“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
As your therapist my role will involve creating a safe, confidential space for you to feel seen, heard and understood. I will help you fully explore your thoughts, feelings and ways of relating to yourself and others. I will help you understand and work through the parts of your life that feel stuck and walk with you on your journey towards self-discovery, empowerment, clarity and balance. I will sit with you in your pain with a full and tender presence as we explore and heal the emotional injuries and neglect you’ve experienced. As you begin trusting your process, I will challenge you to find “your” best answers to create a more satisfying, meaningful and fulfilling life. My wish is that you leave therapy with old wounds healed, better life decisions made and confidence in your strength to face life’s challenges.
Therapy is not just about dealing with problems or crises. It is about gaining confidence, courage and a belief in you. It is about learning to respond well to the ongoing challenges of work, family and relationships. Therapy can help you optimize the joy of life while minimizing the suffering.
Early in our lives, we often learn adaptive ways of relating with others to keep us as safe and loved as possible. However, these same ways of relating may no longer be effective as an adult. In fact, we may feel like we have survived our childhoods only to find we are inadvertently repeating those dysfunctional dynamics. In therapy, you will learn about your unintended behaviors that cause problems. You will learn to work through emotions, beliefs and old wounds in order to make better decisions for your future. As you discover the patterns that keep you from becoming your best self, you develop healthier ways of coping with life’s dilemmas and discover the freedom of becoming authentic and fully alive.
I counsel women and men in individual therapy. Individual therapy is a place to feel seen and understood, where you can discover the freedom of becoming authentic and fully alive. I have worked with many people who are facing depression, anxiety, stress, loneliness, relationship problems, grief, loss and difficult transitional periods in their lives.
I am a relational psychologist. In relational therapy, you learn to identify how you may be pushing people away rather than attracting them and also come to understand how these behaviors are related to past experiences. One of the goals of relational therapy is to help you to develop and maintain stable, healthy and secure relationships. A lack of fulfilling relationships in our lives is believed to cause a number of common psychological issues, including mood instability, social anxiety, addiction and higher susceptibility to trauma. Relational therapy helps you become more aware of the past experiences and patterns of behavior that prevent you from developing healthy relationships, as well as helping you develop new ideas and the needed skills to improve your relationships.
The way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. I believe that most fights are protests over emotional disconnection. One or both partners might not feel valued, accepted or may not feel like they matter or can depend on the other. When relationships fail it is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness. Couples’ therapy helps to address the fundamental need for connection and our fear of losing it.
Group therapy can be one of the most powerful and cost-effective forms of therapy. Some of our greatest pain comes from feelings of not belonging. Group therapy is a place to “experience” how you interact in your relationships and to learn how to enrich them. The dynamics of a group often mirror those of society and family in general. The therapist along with the other members of the group, allow you to experience and understand your patterns in relating to others (i.e., do you fear intimacy and find ways to push people away, do you want to be close and connected to others, but don’t know how?). This type of therapy can help you improve your current relationships by learning how to communicate more effectively and to understand the interpersonal patterns that have been painful or unsatisfying. Group therapy involves learning through experience and deepening your understanding of yourself. It is an opportunity to come together with new people for the shared purpose of personal growth.
Group therapy can benefit those who experience anxiety, depression, relationship problems, grief, loss, life transitions, aging and addiction. I will help you determine if group therapy is the best fit by meeting with you individually for a few sessions to learn about your interpersonal history and goals for therapy.
Areas of Specialization
- Relationship issues
- Grief and loss
- Personal growth